Categotry Archives: Abuse

YouTube: I Won’t Be Quiet Anymore

A day ago, I read about Rehtaeh Parson and made a video in which I vow that I won’t be quiet anymore. This video has already gotten 320 views and I am sincerely hoping it gets a whole lot more. I know a lot of people who really need to hear this message, if not from me, then from someone else. An excerpt follows. This scares the hell out of me, that we keep it all to ourselves. We’re so [...]

Handing Shame to God

“Okay,” She said, her blue eyes offsetting her light hair, “What I want to do is try some distancing. I want to take you back there in that room, where you are . . .” she paused delicately, “In that situation. And remember last time where you flew above and fast-forwarded away, farther and farther?” “Yep.” “I want you to do that. Float away. And this time, tell me how you feel.” She flipped the EMDR machine on and I [...]

Child Abuse Laws: How Bad is Child Porn?

As a brief housekeeping matter, I’ve learned a great deal about building websites since I last spoke to you. I learned, for example, that Sitebuilder and WordPress don’t play well together. I could not migrate my old blog to the new site. So while I designed a beautiful site, with lots of pretty graphics, I could not bring three hundred pages of blog entries with me, and  that was too high of a price to pay. After all, I’m still [...]

When Truth does not Mirror Belief

In light of something rather unpleasant going down in my professional life, I wrote the following last night on my FB Page: I’m thinking tonight about integrity, which is telling the truth to yourself, and honesty, or telling the truth to other people. When a person has both qualities, and a willingness to do their best in all their endeavors, you’ve got the sort of person we all like to call “a keeper.” I strive to be that sort of [...]

A Real-Life Banned Author: Stephanie Saye

Stephanie Saye is one of my friends. She’s also the author of Little 15, which tells the story of a high school girl who has an affair with her basketball coach. Little 15 raises a number of provocative issues, like: whose fault is it anyway? What sort of moral culpability, if any, does the teenager bear? What kind of girl gets involved with a married man? What kind of married man violates all moral and legal precepts by sleeping with [...]