Comments on: PSU and Getting in Touch with my own Anger http://elfarris.com/2012/07/14/psu-and-getting-in-touch-with-my-own-anger/ Writings of E. L. Farris, author of Ripple Thu, 23 May 2013 17:25:41 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: Christina Beverly http://elfarris.com/2012/07/14/psu-and-getting-in-touch-with-my-own-anger/#comment-4757 Christina Beverly Wed, 03 Oct 2012 02:45:01 +0000 http://runningfromhellwithel.com/?p=1311#comment-4757 Please add me to your email list. Thank you.

]]> By: Helping Break the Code of Silence, One Tiny Brick at a Time « runningfromhellwithel http://elfarris.com/2012/07/14/psu-and-getting-in-touch-with-my-own-anger/#comment-3653 Helping Break the Code of Silence, One Tiny Brick at a Time « runningfromhellwithel Thu, 02 Aug 2012 18:05:08 +0000 http://runningfromhellwithel.com/?p=1311#comment-3653 [...] have written about the Code of Silence as it relates to PSU, and in Tuesday’s guest post, my friend and fellow blogger, Dawn Sticklen, has written about how [...]

]]> By: Penn State University: Lessons Learned « runningfromhellwithel http://elfarris.com/2012/07/14/psu-and-getting-in-touch-with-my-own-anger/#comment-3612 Penn State University: Lessons Learned « runningfromhellwithel Tue, 31 Jul 2012 14:23:21 +0000 http://runningfromhellwithel.com/?p=1311#comment-3612 [...] enough, affects each and every one of our communities: sexual abuse. Recently, I wrote about the Code of Silence that protects perpetrators in child sexual abuse cases, and Dawn wrote an amazing response to that [...]

]]> By: Running from Hell with El http://elfarris.com/2012/07/14/psu-and-getting-in-touch-with-my-own-anger/#comment-3479 Running from Hell with El Tue, 24 Jul 2012 15:15:10 +0000 http://runningfromhellwithel.com/?p=1311#comment-3479 My goodness, my friend. You’ve been carrying something huge on your shoulders all of these years. I do so hope that you feel lighter and can set the last remnants of this burden down now.

It is most certainly NOT your fault. That truth was brought home to me (again) when I read about the 17-year old who tweeted the names of the young men who sexually abused her and she got hit with contempt of court for violating their plea agreement. She might get more jail time than they got!

The legal system still does not protect victims. I can only imagine how pathetic it was 30 years ago!!

Let the healing continue. Amen. And I am praying that I feel less anger. I really am . . . xoxo

]]> By: Running from Hell with El http://elfarris.com/2012/07/14/psu-and-getting-in-touch-with-my-own-anger/#comment-3478 Running from Hell with El Tue, 24 Jul 2012 15:11:28 +0000 http://runningfromhellwithel.com/?p=1311#comment-3478 Hello P.j.! Blessings and love right back at you! Thank you so much for telling me this!! xo

]]> By: P.j. Di Benedetto http://elfarris.com/2012/07/14/psu-and-getting-in-touch-with-my-own-anger/#comment-3472 P.j. Di Benedetto Tue, 24 Jul 2012 02:10:50 +0000 http://runningfromhellwithel.com/?p=1311#comment-3472 Hi again! Just to clarify what my previous post said…I am a survivor of a serial rapist/killer. When he raped me I was age 14, and I was SO terrified, that I never told a single soul. This man, along with one of his male cousins, went on hunting sprees in my hometown, and eventually, would go on to rape other girls, and kill at least 6 of them. He was not caught until I was in my late 20′s. I told my mom about what happened to me, then. Yet, it was something I continued to keep buried, until, at the age of 52 I sought christian counseling. Much healing took place through what Jesus did in my counseling. After that, I took my story to the local newspaper. I was not going to be silent anymore. Still…I never thought, until reading what you wrote here, that I was still disappointed at my silence…that I wasn’t brave enough to stop him, before he killed people. Tonight, you helped me to understand more completely that this wasn’t MY fault. I was silent then because that’s the way things were done, and you did not talk about it! Period. So, for all those years, I tried to block it out. That is SO the wrong thing to do. Silence is sickness, I once heard, and openess is health. Let the healing continue. Thanks again, El. ♥, P.j.

]]> By: P.j. Di Benedetto http://elfarris.com/2012/07/14/psu-and-getting-in-touch-with-my-own-anger/#comment-3471 P.j. Di Benedetto Tue, 24 Jul 2012 01:49:29 +0000 http://runningfromhellwithel.com/?p=1311#comment-3471 Hi El,
One of the things you wrote here really struck me. You write, “Those of us who suffered abuse suffered something much worse: silence.” Wow! I guess one of the things I still needed to do was forgive MYSELF for my OWN silence. So, tonight, I did! Thank you for writing from a place in your heart that is so real. You are helping people like me. ♥
God bless you,
P,j,

]]> By: Dawn http://elfarris.com/2012/07/14/psu-and-getting-in-touch-with-my-own-anger/#comment-3421 Dawn Fri, 20 Jul 2012 03:43:07 +0000 http://runningfromhellwithel.com/?p=1311#comment-3421 I would be honored, El. I’ll get to work :)

]]> By: Running from Hell with El http://elfarris.com/2012/07/14/psu-and-getting-in-touch-with-my-own-anger/#comment-3420 Running from Hell with El Thu, 19 Jul 2012 21:10:28 +0000 http://runningfromhellwithel.com/?p=1311#comment-3420 Thank you so much Nina–that means a bunch, especially coming from you. Often I regret when I go public with my anger or my emotion but it this case, it’s for the kids, and as a mother, well, it gets a bit easier to advocate on their behalf.

]]> By: Running from Hell with El http://elfarris.com/2012/07/14/psu-and-getting-in-touch-with-my-own-anger/#comment-3419 Running from Hell with El Thu, 19 Jul 2012 21:09:27 +0000 http://runningfromhellwithel.com/?p=1311#comment-3419 Thank you so much Kourtney, for your comment! I agree on the ranking of values and priorities. It still shocks me that this is even controversial!!

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